I'm so sad

[LeftHandedGuitarist]

I'm so sad, my girlfriend dumped me several weeks back and it's just taken over my mind and I can't get happy, and now me and my ex can't even be friends at the moment. It's got to the point where I'm having a counselling session on Tuesday (at my own insistance) because I can't function properly.

I know it pales in comparison to some of the real problems that people have, but she means everything to me. Eddie Vedder sung it perfectly once: "I'm still here and small, so small, how can this trouble seem so big?"

[robinhood56]

Left- The loss of a relationship is like a death. You must give yourself time to mourn. You will feel better in time but don't feel you have to set a time limit on it.

Don't sit around brooding either, though. The best way to get out of your head is to put your time to use. Often helping others can help you.

It's good that you are seeing someone. Keep it up. Hang in there and it will improve.

Take care.

[crsty1961]

Aww Hun, I know it's hard to feel good about this time of yr when you've just broken up. And all the seasonal stuff is driving you crazy. I did that 14 yrs ago with an ex of mine. Funny thing though once I closed the door on that relationship, my window opened . I met my hubby a matter of weeks later and we've been married 12 years now.

[lostinasheville]

LHG, It sounds like you're in a lot of pain right now. I wish there was a really insightful thing I could say that would really help. All I can say is that I know what it's like to lose a relationship too. What helped me was just to mourn the loss and be as kind to myself as possible. Try to get into a hobby or activity that makes you feel good. Don't blame yourself or play the "what if" game.

Don't compare your loss to other people's "problems". The feelings you have ARE real, and there's no comparison. I'm glad you're going to counseling. A lot of people don't have the courage to face their feelings.

Take care of yourself!
Diane

[Lady Zoltar]

Hey Lefty --- just wondering how you are.

Remember, Eddie also said "I'm still alive"

[LeftHandedGuitarist]

Hi Lady Zoltar, nice you know you were thinking of me. I'm having good days and bad days, my ex and I are talking again and she's pleaded with me to try my hardest to be just friends for now. I've agreed because to not see her at all hurts so much.

Counselling has been good so far, found a really nice person to talk to. Shame it's so expensive!

Right now I'm a bit low because my stupid mind can't push the sad thoughts away sometimes. I hate sleeping and waking up alone every morning.

[DOMesticatedSag]

Am sorry to hear about you and your ex-girlfriend, that bites.

Are you doing any better now that some time has passed?
I realize you don't know me at all, but in my small opinion
her wanting to keep you as a friend right now, is just selfish.
She needs to allow you to have your time to heal and get on with your social life. Tell her to back-off if it hurts to much, and maybe once some time has passed you two can be friends. It should be up to you, not her.
keep up with the counselling, it sounds like it's helping you
pretty well.

*sends my best wishes*