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Old 08-25-16, 12:44 PM   #21
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Re: International Women's Day 2016

I am personally not opposed to ethical pornography, just as I am not opposed to women choosing to be sex workers (though the legalization of sex work is a hot button, often politicized, so I'll stop right here on that).

Ethical pornography, for those wondering, is made by people who a) want to be there*, and b) are of legal age to sign contracts to that effect.

However.

I became aware, a couple of weeks ago, of a scandal in Australia, wherein young boys--and I mean boys, as young as 13/14-- mostly from expensive private schools, share pornography through online forums created and maintained exclusively for this purpose.

Which, despite the young age of the users, I would still be okay with, if--and this is a big if--the people whose images are being shared had consented to this.

Instead, it turns out, these boys are literally hunting naked images of school girls--in many cases, classmates!!!--to share with other boys across the country. And, as packs always do, the boys, and occasional young adult man, encourage each other to greater depths of immoral behaviour, by rewarding each other for 'wins' (aka, specific images of specific girls, targeted often at the request of someone who knows that girl).

Mind boggling?

Should be, yes.

But the responses, by police ('well, the servers are not in the country, so we cannot shut these forums down, and girls should be more careful anyway'), and by the overwhelmingly male school administrators ('well, these girls shouldn't be having sex, and if they were more careful/demure/modest/good, then they would be safe') are, sadly, what women all around the world have come to expect.

The girls themselves, we are told, are the root of these boys' behaviour:
“Instead of laying blame directly where it falls — with the perpetrators — it seems her school decided the best line of defence was to haul the girls into a meeting and not just police their appearance, but thoroughly insult and denigrate them,” she wrote in an open letter on Facebook to Victoria’s Kambrya College that has been shared nearly 4000 times and attracted hundreds of comments.
Ms Manning said her daughter reported she and her friends had been told to “check the length of their skirts” in order to “protect their integrity.”
Yes, really. It's 2016, and yet the response to this type of violation, just as with physical rape, is to tell women to cover themselves, to be careful, to take precautions, and so on and so forth--lest men be tempted beyond acceptable behaviour.

When are men going to be considered sufficiently strong and mature and ethical to hold themselves to the standards they demand of women? Isn't it insulting to say that, unless girls and women behave within these limited parameters, boys and men are out of control beasts who cannot be held responsible for their animal lust?


When will fathers buck up, and demand that their sons respect all women as they should respect their own mothers and sisters and wives and daughters?
As for fathers, "What role do they play in all this?" I asked sociologist Dr Michael Flood, associate professor at the University of Wollongong, this week. He chuckled. "That's a good question." Men have a critical role to play in teaching their sons to respect women, "but they just feel less fluent about these matters, probably because they're more sympathetic to pornography, so there's a degree of complicity or shame there."
The shame might also stem from fathers' own transgressions as young men. While the tools of humiliation – images on the internet – are new, the themes, Flood notes, are well-worn. Male bonding and status-seeking via the sexual exploitation of women, the hostile and derogatory remarks and the double standard that positions the "slut" as an object of both derision and desire producing an "ambivalent misogyny".
Consent is not just a word--it should be a guiding principle in all relationships between individuals.

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* I imagine some people wonder why anyone, particularly a woman, would want to make porn. I suggest reading Maggie McNeill's blog. Also, accept that there are women who are exhibitionists, and whose enjoyment of sex and life is enhanced by it--as proven by the extreme abundance of free, amateur porn, by and for women, online.
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Old 09-27-16, 04:50 PM   #22
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Re: International Women's Day 2016

Scenario: a woman is walking out of a building toward her car when a man grabs her from behind and lifts her off her feet.

After a couple of seconds of paralyzed surprised, the woman elbows the man in the face and frees herself. As she turns around, yelling "who the <snip> are you?" the man in question--a stranger to her--runs off.

Would you consider her reaction outrageous?

Would you call her behaviour after being attacked--and yes, grabbing someone from behind and lifting them off their feet, is an attack--unladylike, unbecoming, too aggressive, 'not model' behaviour?

Well, it so happens this scenario is not made up.

Not only have millions of women around the world experienced this, as a prelude to being robbed, raped, beaten and more. And here we have just one example, caught on camera: (warning for language)



And you know what's amazing about this?

The reaction.

A number of media outlets upbraided Miss Hadid for defending herself. In fact, The Sun had the nerve to publish a piece titled "Not Model Behaviour" (after social media outrage, this was changed).

And so, after being physically attacked by an asshat, Miss Hadid had to defend herself from the media.

This, in case anyone is wondering, is what pervasive, internalized sexism looks like: shame a woman for defending herself.

Instead of, you know, telling the women in your life that they have every right to their bodies, their personal space, their dignity, and their choices.
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Old 10-04-16, 07:16 PM   #23
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Re: International Women's Day 2016

I post the following link with a caveat: the title of the article mentions Hillary Clinton, currently a candidate for the Presidency of the USoA. The article itself is not about politics per se, but about sexism.

Specifically, the sexism of telling women to smile.

To wit:
Women hate being told to smile, and it’s only in the past four years or so that I’ve completely lost patience with it. The last time was the grocery store employee who walked by me and told me to “smile, sweetheart,” and I gave him a nasty look and moved on. No one tells a male stranger to smile; only women are expected to placidly smile all the time.
There is a lot of important stuff in that piece, and I encourage readers of this thread to follow the link and read it in its entirety.
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Re: International Women's Day 2016/2017

After a hiatus brought on by incredibly depressing current events, I bring you the next International Woman's Day celebration:
The date of the "Day Without A Woman" strike coincides with another important event: International Women's Day — which is no coincidence. International Women's Day began in 1908 when thousands of women gathered in New York City to demand better working conditions, better pay, and the right to vote. The first official International Women's Day was observed three years later, in 1911. Given that, according to the Women's March website, the purpose of "A Day Without A Woman" is to recognize "the enormous value that women of all backgrounds add to our socio-economic system — while receiving lower wages and experiencing greater inequities, vulnerability to discrimination, sexual harassment, and job insecurity," it makes perfect sense that the strike coincides with International Women's Day.
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Re: International Women's Day 2016/2017

Since Casey Affleck just won an Oscar for Best Actor, and Mel Gibson's movie was nominated for 8 Oscars, this seems timely:
"Gibson and Affleck are a reminder that when we say, “Women who accuse men of hurting them are lying in order to ruin the men’s careers,” we are not only victim blaming, we are also engaging in a myth. Because hurting women often does not hurt men’s careers — not if they’re rich enough and white enough.

"...the biggest difference between Parker’s story and Gibson and Affleck’s stories is that Gibson and Affleck are wealthy, well-connected, and white. Gibson has been a Hollywood superstar for decades. Affleck isn’t as well known as the other Affleck, but the other Affleck is his brother.

"Parker’s story fit neatly into that old American horror story of the pure and innocent white woman menaced by the sexually aggressive black man — that story that so neatly combines misogyny and racism — which imbued it with staying power."
Lest we forget: this happens in all fields, and at all levels. From politicians, to sport stars, to CEO's--to the manager who simply knows his female employee has no recourse but to put up with his grabby hands and demeaning words, or be out of a job--qualifications and performance be damned.
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Re: International Women's Day 2016/2017

So March is Women's History Month in the US. To celebrate it, as well as providing a striking visual of the incredibly large gender gap in publishing, a bookstore in Cleveland, OH, flipped all the books by male authors.


One of the first reactions I saw was to ask if it was 'fair' to obscure some authors to highlight others.
Gee, I wonder how many women authors have felt that, ever.
Soon after, someone else asked, How about women authors publishing under male pseudonyms?
Isn't the fact that female authors still feel the need to submit manuscripts under male pseudonyms, particularly in genres like Science Fiction, further proof of the gender gap?
A while back, in the literature forum, I brought this up, and was told (in so many words) that there's not that much of a gender gap in publishing. Wonder if that opinion still holds.
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Re: International Women's Day 2016/2017

Via openculture.com, a FREE online course:
• How women’s participation in, exclusion from, and impact on American economic, political, and social life have altered American history.
• How key figures and events have challenged the role of women in the home and workplace.
• How ideas, such as democracy, citizenship, liberty, patriotism, and equality have differently shaped the lives of women and men.
• How women of different races and classes have experienced work, both inside and outside the home.
• How historians of women and gender study America’s past, including hands-on opportunities to practice analyzing primary sources from the present and the past.
• How women’s history has developed and changed over time.
It starts today, so go ahead, learn to view the world around you in a different light.
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Also, in honor of International Women's Day 2017, any women's donations in KIVA, are being matched today.

Will you invest in her/them?
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Re: International Women's Day 2016/2017

On January 21 of this year, millions of women marched--on Washington DC, on large cities like New York or Los Angeles, and in small towns. They marched in the United States, and they marched around the world. They marched for all women, and for humanity itself.

A few weeks later, a bronze statue of a girl was set in front of the iconic bronze bull on Wall Street. Seemingly fearless, this young, unarmed female stares down a charging bull many times her size.

Immediately, praise was heaped upon the idea and what it purports to symbolize.

Here's why it's neither deserving of acclaim, nor representative of women:
Let’s have a little look at this statue for a minute. What we have here is a skinny little girl, normatively dressed for her assumed gender, with her hair in a ponytail. She looks very young, and she does not have anything in her hands, such as a gun, a matador’s cape, or an angry hive of bees — anything that would actually do something about a charging bull.
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Her pose dramatically evokes bravery, but the statue, however well meaning, is a bunch of really stupid consciousness-raising — whereas the Day Without a Woman actually got a whole lot of women more deeply aware of the fact that what we do in the world keeps the world going, and that when we stop doing those things the world stops.
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And those women and girls would not only be there for a month. Those women and girls would be there in bronze, taking that bull down forever.
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And...it took barely two days after the Fearless Girl was installed, before a particularly privileged white male, to the applause of some of his friends, thought it funny to mock <snip> it.
“Almost as if out of central casting, some Wall Street finance broseph appeared and started humping the statue while his gross date rape-y friends laughed and cheered him on,”
I imagine many people, particularly men, will shrug the incident off. And that the same tire platitutdes will be uttered.

Boys will be boys! They were probably drunk! It's a harmless joke!

Considering how often real women, and young girls, are exposed to this same behaviour, and how often these assaults are dismissed with these same attitudes/excuses...yeah, call me over sensitive, but both the behaviour and all the justifications for it are, precisely, why feminism is needed.
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